Narrative Therapy
You are not your problem. We separate you from it, examine the stories you've inherited, and rewrite the ones that no longer fit who you're becoming.
Approach
How the work actually works.
Two disciplines do most of the heavy lifting: Narrative Therapy and Philosophical Taoism. None of it is about fixing you — there's nothing in you to fix. There's a story to re-tell and an energy to point back in its correct direction.
Philosophical Taoism
Less forcing, more flowing. Wu wei — actionless action — isn't passivity. It's the recognition that your nature isn't the problem, and forcing it never was the answer. The most durable change doesn't come from pushing harder; it comes from finding what's already trying to move and getting out of its way.
Honest Conversation
Being a therapist isn't a call-in job where you ramble for years and nothing moves. I'll tell you the truth, cuss when it's warranted, and stay in it with you. You'll always know where you stand.
Four Domains
Somatic, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual. We keep an eye on all four, because no life ever changed in just one of them.
“Decadence is sophistication in the absence of substance — a hall of mirrors that masquerades as self-improvement. I'm not here to add to it. I'm here to clear what's in the way of the identity that already works.”
Taoist Elements
All energy needs to find its correct course.
The Taoist wisdom doesn't ask you to eliminate what's troubling you, instead we figure out what those patterns are trying to tell you. Worry, grief, anger, shame are not disorders to be removed. They're innocent energies waiting to find their correct course. My work is in the recognition and then transmutation, not suppression.
"Once upon a time, I dreamt I was a butterfly, fluttering hither and thither, to all intents and purposes a butterfly. I was conscious only of my happiness as a butterfly, unaware that I was myself. Soon I awaked, and there I was, veritably myself again. Now I do not know whether I was then a man dreaming I was a butterfly, or whether I am now a butterfly, dreaming I am a man."
— Zhuangzi, The Butterfly as Companion: Meditations on the First Three Chapters of the Chuang Tzu
Worry → Competency
Worry is attention that hasn't been handed its work. Give it a direction and it becomes competence.
Addiction → Connection
Underneath the craving is a need for connection that got rerouted. We follow it back to people.
Anger → Boundaries
Anger is information. It marks the line that matters — we learn to read it early and say it plainly.
Grief → Devotion
Grief is the receipt for having loved. Its course was never getting over it; it's devotion.
Shame → Belonging
Shame insists you're too much, or not enough, to be loved. Being truly known is how you call its bluff.
Fear → Aliveness
Fear tends to show up exactly where the aliveness is. We move toward it — your pace, your terms.
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